For a life time

This week was full of events, both on line and in real life. After two weeks of vacation I am back to work; Mik got his phone (eventually :up: ), Pam became a MOTW :hat: , Carlos celebrates one year in My Opera :cheers: , Dirk went to meet Theresia, two of my friends got married…. These last two events made me think.
I wanted to make this post earlier but somehow I was not ready. No, I am not getting married if this is what you think, I was spending some of my time thinking about marriage and having a life with someone. I grew up in traditional surrounding, where institution of marriage was recognized as one of the main goals in everyone`s life. This and children, too, as a purpose of being in this world. Thirty or forty yers ago it was like this: young people finish their education, spend some time fooling around then chose someone to get married and have kids. Just like that. But then, somehow something goes wrong. I guess "chosing someone" part was done lighthartedly, without getting deeper into subject. It is not for month, nor for year, it is for a life time. Some may call me old fashioned and I know, I am aware that world has changed a lot since I was a kid. And to stress one more thing, I am not judging anyone. Probably 60% of my friends, both on line and in real life are divorced, some of them having 3rd marriage behind them :faint: But I like to think about marriage like this is something both parties goes into with a full awarenes and with both feet on a ground. Otherwise, someone is suffering. I have seen in some movie, one of the actors was talking to his friend explaining him that getting married is like standing on the edge of a cliff; you know you have to jump, you are just waiting for a moment to do that. And everything else is just of matter of luck. But I think we all know this is not how things are going in a real life. And then, we have a different kind of celebration 😛
I guess, we can`t be sure. You spend ten years with someone and then discover he/she was cheating bastard; or life became the same boring circle and one morning you realise you don`t want to wake up anymore with that person on the other side of the bed. Or, you realise that a choice you made was the best thing you have ever done in your life. There is no universal recipe for being happy with someone; it depends of a too many things that I could even imagine.
Coming back to that cliff and jumping from the edge…. maybe it has to do something with luck. I don`t know. I was never married before.

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